In a Dark Place

Sometimes we find ourselves in a dark place because we have given our power and control to an external person or thing (abusive person, addiction, doing work we hate etc) that is now controlling us and we do not like this or do not feel safe.  Other times we find ourselves in a dark place because we have lost something (job, relationship, health, wealth, purpose, reputation, independence, safety etc.) and do not know how to continue without it.  Sometimes we just feel that something is wrong with our lives but we do not know how to change this.  We feel powerless.  We do not know what to do. In some cases, we feel that we cannot go on living.  Life is too much of a struggle.

When we are stuck in this dark place it is difficult to think positively about anything.  It seems impossible to believe that one day we might be able to look back on this time as an opportunity for growth leading to a much happier life!

When you find yourself in this dark place there is only one thing you can do.  You need to ask for help.    

Asking for Help

You may find it difficult to ask for help, you may think that it is weak thing to do.  But it is not.  Asking for help is not a sign of weakness, it is a sign of strength.  It is a loving thing to do for yourself.  You may think you are not important enough to get help and you do not want to bother anyone.  I am here to tell you that you are important.  So please ask for help.  Remember the common tenet running through a number of belief systems.  ASK and YOU SHALL RECEIVE. This concept is found in many different belief systems.  So now it is time to ask for help.

Tangible Sources

There are a number of tangible ways that you can get help; Samaritans, Age support, Doctor or therapist, friends and family, neighbours, local priest, financial advisor, astrologer, tarot card reader, a nearby stranger, a book or even Google.  These support systems can offer advice, assistance and practical solutions.  They may give you choices.  Ultimately it is up to you to determine what to do for your own good.  You have that power.  But what do you do if this is proving too difficult for you?  Then you may need to turn to a more intangible source for courage and strength to find the right answer for you.

Intangible Sources

When you are desperately alone or feel that no-one can help you then you can turn to more intangible sources depending upon your beliefs.  If you are religious then you can turn to God and pray.  Experiments have shown the power of prayer.  You may turn to your bible for help.  These spiritual books are often full of advice for those who are suffering. If you are not religious, then perhaps you a spiritualist and you can turn to the Angels or Spirit Guides for help. 

Alternatively you can also connect with the energy of Nature. Go for a walk in nature, hug a tree, admire a beautiful flower, watch the clouds in the sky, or go and sit by a calm stretch of water and take in those healthy negative ions. Find your own oasis of peace and just marvel in the mystery of nature and start to believe that something did create all this and that power created you and you can tap into that power to improve your life.

Connect with Something

But what do you do when you do not believe in these concepts?  When you do not believe there is anything ‘out there’.  In this case, may I lovingly suggest that this belief is not serving you right now.  Why not try believing in this power for a few days as an experiment. You will find that you are never alone and that power will send someone/something to help you.

If you are still resistant to the beliefs in ‘something’ out there then at least, you have yourself. Perhaps you can believe in your Inner Genie, your connection to Source Energy. Changing your own energy to a more positive one can, science is showing, attract positive things into your life. Again it is worth a try.

If you are in a dark place then it is time to connect with something that can give you strength and hope.  And a way back to a lighter place.   You may think that things like God, Spirit, Divine, Universe etc are all ‘woo woo’ nonsense but Science is now doing studies that show us that this is not the case.  Science is telling us that there is a Universal Intelligence that we are connected to.  Gregg Braden calls it the Divine Matrix and has written a book about it.

It is now time to tap into this Intelligence by being still, releasing your burden to this power and opening your heart and mind to the answer.  Whether you believe this source is external or whether you believe it is internal, it does not matter.  Just connect with it.  Just call out to whatever might be there.  You will be surprised at the results.

The Answer

At some point you need to stop talking, asking.  You need to be quiet and listen.  Listen for the answer.  Or carry on and wait for the answer to appear.  You need to be patient and you may need to practice this…

The answer will may come quickly or it may appear over the next few days. Do not force it to come just wait.  It may come as a thought, an idea, an image, a feeling etc.  In some cases it may come via another person, or by a lucky turn of events.  Sometimes you may just get a feeling that that you are not alone and that something or someone is there to help you. 

I now ask for help before I go to sleep because I will usually wake up with an idea or thought that I feel inspired to pursue.  When I do, I am surprised that things start to miraculous change in order to help me. It is like magic.

The Inner Genie

It was during one of these times that I had a dream about a genie.  I wrote a post about the Inner Genie here. The dream gave me a strong feeling that the Universe could connect to me though this genie.  This Inner Genie was with me all the time so that I never felt alone and could get help whenever I asked for it. I was taught to rely on myself.  This can feel lonely sometimes.  Now I feel less alone because I have my Inner Genie and the Universe.

The Source

Personally, I choose to believe (whether true or not, and there seems to be more evidence that it is) that there is a Universal Intelligence that we are all connected to.  Sometimes I call this Divine Intelligence God, sometimes the Universe.  When I ask for help I sometimes ask God, sometimes the Universe, sometimes both.  Sometimes I just ask. To me it is all the same source of energy that we are all connected to. I always say thank you for the help that I will receive.

I started out thinking that there might be something ‘Out There’ that could help me.  Over time I came to believe that there was because something always ‘happened’ to help me.  Now I believe that we are part of this power.  This power is within us and well as without. I was shown this in a dream.  This dream described this source as my Inner Genie.   I will give more details about this dream in a later post. 

We can connect with this power when we need to.  This power can give us answer in many ways; an image, a dream an idea, a feeling, an unexpected source of help etc..  But it is up to us to act on this answer and help ourselves to a lighter place.

I started by asking the ‘Universe Out There’, but over time I came to realise that in a way I was still giving away my power to an ‘external source’.   Now I realise that the Universe is also within me and I can just connect with myself to connect with this source.  My own Inner Genie.

It does not matter what you call this source, it does matter than you believe that this power is available to you.  All you have to do it ask it for help.